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About gaslighting and the damage it does

"You're too dramatic.."
"About (insert number) years ago, this didn't happen..."
"If you really wanted to do it, you'd do it properly".
"It can't be that bad"
"Don't do that. You look crazy/weird/like a baby"...
"Just whimsical nonsense"
"You do it like that because that's how i choose it"...
"I decide which privileges you have..."
"It's time for you to be mature"...

During my short life, i've heaard this phrases, and more (and they offend me).
They minimize my feelings, desires and dreams.
They kill me inside, and attack my soul.

This *horrendous* practice, which is commonly suffered by neurodivergent people, is called "Gaslighting", and the name stems from a movie in which a man psychologically abused his wife, making her seem crazy, all because he wanted her money.

*It's psychological abuse*

It's totally, at least for me, *sickening*, to see your loved ones doing so.
It's an example of *bigotry¨*

*Bigoted* people (family, couples, etc)do not have the right to doubt Invisbly Disabled People's feelings.

Would you tell a wheelchair user (insert pronoun) is/are exagerating, or that (insert pronoun) wheelchair is just "whimsical nonsense", or (insert pronoun) looks weird/won't use it because that's how you chose it? *no*. *This is just as ableist* *Ableism involves any kind of opression towards disabled people*

*And, according to the Social Model of Disability, Autistics are Disable*

*Carers should recognize their privilege. Your loved one doesn't have to thank you. If you don't want to do respectful work, your cared for will surely find another person.

I wish all spaces to be 100% Gaslight free.




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