"You don't look Autistic" ISN'T a compliment

"You are too pretty to be Autistic"

"But... You speak!"

"You look really normal"...

"Sure?"

They've told me all this when i tell them I'm Autistic. But I DON'T THINK THAT AUTISM HAS A PARTICULAR LOOK.

There's people, like Amy Sequenzia, who HAVE COMORBID CONDITIONS, whih are easily noticeable,  in her case, for example, it's brain palsy. She is also nonspeaking, and types (slowly, but fiercely) to communicate. There's others with no visible commorbilities, like me.

I'm one of them, i speak (only 1 out of 5 does not), don't have intellectual disability, and not many believe i'm Autistic. Amy is believed, of course, but they can't understand what they're seeing is her commorbilities.

But of course, if i hand-flap, or talk a lot about a topic, then you could believe it, right? But, honestly, why do i have to prove my identity? I  have the privilege of a formal diagnosis, and even if i didn't, I HAVE ALL THE SIGNS.

Of course, it's true that serial killers, such as Ted Bundy, pretended to be Disabled to win their victims' compassion, and be able to commit their crimes. I understand it fully, but i've learned, from other advocates, to PRESUME GOOD INTENTIONS. Most likely, i won't kill you, i'll just tell you an identity, which makes me different and needy of help for stuff you DO  know, and i don't.

Now, we're discovering every way Autism is present. People from every ethnic background, every sexual orientation, every socioeconomic condition, sexual identity (WHICH ISN'T THE SAME AS SEXUAL ORIENTATION, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE RELATED), religion, age, with different commorbilities, know they're autistic and, BECAUSE OF THEIR UNPRIVILEGED POSITION IN SOCIETY, MAYBE WON'T ACHIEVE DIAGNOSIS. Ableism intersects with other forms of discrimination to DENY PEOPLE'S IDENTITIES. 

PRESUME GOOD INTENTIONS. I'M TRULY AUTISTIC.

I'm pretty too (that's a more relative concept), there are lots of disabled models.

And... ARE YOU SURE YOU´RE NEUROTYPICAL?